Positive thinking is the key to success!!
We have heard it many times. I am okay with it. But let me share a secret with you. I have some negative thoughts. If you are like me, you may also have some negative thoughts. Come on, lets be frank about it. If you take one message from this blog today, it will be that you can succeed the way you are. It’s okay to be negative. It’s okay to have negative feelings. In fact negative thinking can be the key to your success.
We are all programmed to believe that certain behaviour and tendencies are considered positive, and others negative. We commonly accept that a successful person is a positive person, and if you are not positive, you are doomed to fail unless you can change. Therefore, we spend enormous energy attempting to change, rather than focusing on being successful.
At least some of you here get that negative inner voice telling them that “you can’t do it” (It may be about another speech at the harrovians or turning up for another meeting as you may be called to do a table topic), don’t fight back. Yield to your voice by ignoring it. Don’t focus your energy in an attempt to change your opinion of yourself. By ignoring your voice, you are able to free yourself from the trap that says “change comes before success”.
So let’s look at some of those negative feelings and see how it can be used for our advantage.
If you are inclined to be jealous and envious of the success of others, there is no need to eliminate these thoughts of negativity; rather, use them to fuel your life’s engine. When you become jealous and envious of other’s accomplishments, you must search within yourself to learn how you can excel and let them become jealous of you instead. Do not waste your energy attempting to overcome your jealousy.
If you are angry at others for the injustices they have done to you, the greatest revenge is to light your own fire of rage and rise above them to the top. The greatest revenge is to live well, prosper, and succeed.
Back in my school days, I was told that I am inconsistent. If you are one who thinks you are cursed by inconsistency, you have overlooked its virtues. Consistency is not always a virtue unless you are an accountant. Somehow, our world tends to consider consistency a positive trademark and inconsistency a negative one. In reality, consistency and inconsistency are equally valuable.
In fact, not even God Himself is always consistent. He creates draught during the rainy seasons and floods during the dry seasons. Due to the power of his inconsistencies, we fear Him and offer our unceasing prayers to appease Him.
Just imagine what our world would be like if all the human beings were always consistent. We would have the same music, the same paintings, the same architecture, the same fashions, the same movies, and the same books and see the same speeches. There would be no poetry, there would be no romance. Further more in business, inconsistency will always keep your opponents on their toes. In marriage, inconsistency will keep your spouse fascinated and your marriage new.
Now, what about the negative feeling of laziness? At least some of us have a positive attitude towards work … we positively don’t want to do any. Do you consider yourself not so productive sometimes, may be a bit lazy, and then feel a guilty feeling. It’s okay to be having that lazy thought.
A high jumper must bend his knees and lower his body just before he makes that high leap. The bear and the snake hibernate before the season of activity resumes.
For some, the time of hibernating and resting is the essential process for generating highly creative energies. The important thing is to love your negativities and not judge them, and learn to use them to raise yourself up. Enjoy your non-productivity; know that is part of your productivity. When you are inspired, you will soar like a rocket and burn like a comet.
Whatever is your negative feeling, contemplate them. You can always find ways to channel that energy and use it as a springboard for success.
“This is just another of your stupid dreams, just look at you… why can’t you face who you really are?” I was told similar statements many times!
When others tell you that you can’t do this, you can’t do that, you are a lofty dreamer, a chronic loser, you feel hurt and angry. Use their negative energy plus the negativity you feel for them to create an emotion explosive enough to support and realize your dreams. Again, success is the sweetest revenge.
To conclude
Don’t be obsessed with being positive and don’t worry about overcoming your negative thoughts. Spend that energy focusing on manifesting your dreams instead of trying to be positive.
Tap into the power of your determination and refocus your attention away from your negative thoughts. Instead, focus on your dreams and never let go of the flame of hope.
Let your negative feelings be there. Do your work; focus your energy on the flame of hope. Tap the power of your negative thinking.
Confucius said “To be the top dog, first, you need to be a son-of-a-bitch”.
Note: This was delivered as a speech for a Toastmasters event @Harrovians UK 2008